Archive for April, 2005

Got Game?

April 18, 2005

In the March, 2005 issue of The Business Monthly, in the “From The Editor” section, Editor Mark R. Smith opines “It’s Time for Maryland to Get Gaming.”

It’s an old, and tired argument – and one we’re (“We” being some combination of Republicans, Marylanders, and responsible-minded citizens) likely to lose sooner or later.

Mr. Smith takes a typically democratic turn at wordsmithing by carefully crafting the argument (Watch for the twist) “I really, really hate seeing $400 million discretionary dollars that could be spent here in the Old Line State being gambled away in Delaware, West Virginia, Las Vegas, the Moon or wherever.” (emphasis mine)

The implication being that if the money is “spent” here in Maryland, it’s a good thing. However, if the same money goes to anywhere else (in the universe, apparently), it’s being merely “Gambled Away”, and therefore a bad thing. If it is spent in the same way here, is it no longer being “Gambled Away”?

He goes on to say “Yes, there will be more gambling adducts in the state that could reduce the potential payback by draining state resources more than anyone anticipates – but to such a degree that it would negate the overall benefit? Hardly. Addiction is an illness, yes, but we all have to be responsible for our actions.”

This is an interesting argument. He advocates personal responsibility over Governmental interdiction. Which would normally sit very well with me. However, we’re not talking about a situation where the Government should choose not to act, instead increasing awareness & education to promote personal responsibility. No, we’re talking about the Government TAKING action to tempt and place increased risk and responsibility into the hands of the people. According to Stop Slots Maryland, a site that I do not claim complete agreement with, but has some interesting counter arguments, “Government is a contract among it’s people. We collectively agree to limit drinking, driving, prostitution, voting ages, drug use and other human behavior. For many people, gambling is an activity that needs limits. Proximity to convenience gambling increases the risk of problem gambling. It is not a Constitutional right to be encouraged by the State.” An interesting argument to consider.

And the argument goes that we (Marylanders) need this new revenue source to overcome budgetary problems, deficits, etc., and that this income would provide huge increases to education, jobs, etc. Yeah, instead of deciding to really take the hard line and reduce Government spending, attract new businesses and jobs to the area, and so on – we should instead create bigger, long-term problems instead.
Once this door is opened, it can likely never be closed again. And it presents far more problems than it solves.

I would urge everyone to carefully consider – and to pray about – this issue. Are you buying the hyperbole? Are you being swayed and tossed like a boat in a storm by all the propaganda? What’s in your heart about it? Don’t have the attitude of “Well, it’s not for me, but I can see how other people might want it.” Let’s not cause other’s to stumble by our action (or inaction). Let’s advocate (and vote) responsible spending and proper Government.

If you are a supporter of this issue, I might suggest looking deep into your heart and asking “Why? Do I have a gambling problem” and if so, seek help. Addictions take many forms, but they all boil down to Idolatry.

Without going deeply into the various religious, political, ethical, moral, legal, etc., issues surrounding gambling – let’s just focus on the obvious – common sense. All forms of gambling exist for exactly one reason – to make money (for “the house”). They are specifically designed and tweaked to force the odds heavily in the favor of the institution hosting the gambling. OK – so that may seem like an argument in support of state-legalized gambling. Except that means the money comes from somewhere to fill the coffers of that institution. In every case, the money comes from gamblers – an obvious but important point. I do not personally know the statistics (though I have my opinions), but I found this article that points out that 52% of regular casino gamblers (or 46% of participants in any type of gambling) are not in the workforce. That means that approximately half of the people gambling are not producing revenue for their household, but are extracting money from their household that they likely cannot afford.

The ads and the supporters of legalized gambling will glamorize the issue (and even the problem itself). You’ll see ads featuring a handsome middle-aged man, flanked by a couple of beauties, with a drink on the table, and stacks of chips in front of him. The insinuation being that if you gamble, you’ll be attractive to women, make loads of cash, and have the lifestyle you always wanted. The reality is that gambling promotes alcoholism, prostitution, philandering, idolatry, bad stewardship, and a host of other problems.

OK, let’s look (as I must) at the biblical perspective… Family.Org has some great articles and links on the issue, including this one.

Although there are no passages in the bible that speak directly to gambling, there are countless principles and commands that speak to the heart issues surrounding gambling. Principles such as:

Genesis 3:19 “By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food” (you will have to work to earn your money and food – it will not be provided for you for free)
Proverbs 14:31 “He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God.”

Proverbs 22:16 “He who oppresses the poor to increase his wealth and he who gives gifts to the rich – both come to poverty.” (As a state, we would be oppressing the poor to increase our wealth through gambling – we would also be giving gifts to the rich (the gambling magnates))

Isaiah 3:14 “The LORD enters into judgment against the elders and leaders of his people: It is you who have ruined my vineyard; the plunder from the poor is in your houses.”

Proverbs 12:11 “He who works his land will have abundant food, but he who chases fantasies lacks judgment.”

Proverbs 28:20 “A faithful man will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished.”

Proverbs 15:27a “A greedy man brings trouble to his family.”

Luke 12:15 “Then he said to them, ‘Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.’”

2 Peter 2:18-19 “For they mouth empty, boastful words and, by appealing to the lustful desires of sinful human nature, they entice people who are just escaping from those who live in error. 19 They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity-for a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.”

Matthew 6:21 “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.”

Exodus 20:17 “You shall not covet… anything that belongs to your neighbor.” (Gambling seeks to obtain the resources of others without providing anything of value in return.)

1 Timothy 6:9 “People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction.”

Hebrews 13:5 “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’”

2 Thessalonian 3:10b “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”

For additional references on a biblical perspective on gambling:

Family.Org Gambling: A biblical perspective

Is gambling a sin? What does the Bible say about gambling?

Gambling: Moral or Immoral? Lotteries, Casinos and the Bible

Also, I’d encourage you to read “An Open Letter From 220 Religious Leaders to the President and Congress on the Spread of Gambling.”

American Idol

April 9, 2005

Ok – so I know you’re asking yourself, “What on earth is an American Idol post doing on a Christian Blog?”

Well, I have been observing AI as an avid fan since its inception, and find it quite fascinating to watch the dynamics, personalities, etc., unfold as the season unfolds… And then when the winner’s CD is finally released, to read the liner notes carefully to see if my observation is still valid. And so far, it is – PERFECTLY.

So what’s the issue? I have been watching God work through this show to provide an open door to His chosen, highly gifted, highly talented people to shine their light on the world.

What am I talking about?!?

Well, let’s examine the evidence:


Idol #1, Kelly Clarkson, Album #1, “Thankful”, from the liner notes:
“First and foremost I want to thank God. This past year has been such a blessing and I haven’t taken one thing for granted.”

Album #2, “Breakaway”, from the CD Jacket:
“God, you are so gracious and giving. There are no words to describe my love and passion for you. These past couple of years have been a bit hard and so crazy and I thank you for being with me and teaching me to just let things go and give them up to you because no matter how strong I think I am, I CANNOT do anything without you.”

“I have no idea why God has blessed me with so much, but I do know that I will never take it for granted and will always remember my roots and my desires.”

“God bless y’all”


AI Season #1, Made it to the top 5, RJ Helton, album #1, “Real Life”, from the liner notes:

“Thank you God for your endless blessings and for putting the passion for music in my heart.”

From Song #2, “My Devotion”, “… You’re me reason why / You’re me living stream in a desert dry / and you can believe me / if you ever asked me to / there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do / giving you the best of me. I don’t want to give you half a heart / I don’t want to hold back any part of my devotion / I don’t wanna turn and walk away / ’cause I wanna walk with you each day, day by day / loving you in slow emotion. I just wanna take my own sweet time / spending every moment of my life / discovering the mystery of everything you are / this is not a temporary thing / I’m saying you can always count me in / and if you ever call me there’s no road that’s too far.”

From Song #3, “Love Song”, “… I will sing You a love song / just to tell you how / You have changed me now and forever I will bless Your name. I can’t count the ways / You’ve shined Your light in the dark till it was gone / I will sing you a love song. I’ve known tears, tears of seperation / when my heart was broken down in two / where part of me was lost and confused / but the love You gave me led me to the truth.” Bridge: “With my heart / with my soul / with my strength / with my mind / with my life.”

From Song # 4, “All we need to know”, “… Oh, but all, all we need to know / is that we’re walking with / the Keeper of our soulds / and all, all we need to know / is that the life we live / has never been our own / and Father of our hope / safe within your hands / there’s freedom to let go / that’s all we need to know. Here You
are / reaching out with wounded hands to heal the world / touch by touch / tears will fall / one by one You catch them in Your waiting hands / like previous rain / to heal our pain.”


Idol #2, Ruben Studdard, has made no bones about his Christian upbringing and his musical background singing Gospel music. From his BIO on his website (at the time of this writing):

“I’ve only been singing non-spiritual material for about three or four years, gospel music was all I sang before that, so doing an inspirational record was a natural thing for me.” (speaking of “I need an Angel,” his second album.)

“Gospel music is what I was raised on and is the foundation for all things musically for me. I am incredibly passionate about every song we selected to record for this album, each song has a special meaning.” (Songs like “Amazing Grace”, “Jesus is Love”, “Jesus is Real”, “His Eyes On The Sparrow”, “There’s Not A Friend Like Jesus”, “I Surrender All”, and “Shout To The Lord”).

Says producer [Eric] Dawkings “I think it’s [a] bold statement for Ruben to release an inspirational record at this point in his career. He’s saying ‘This is what I stand for, this is what I believe in, this is where I come from.’ You get the best performance when something is coming from your heart and your vision.”

“… He considers his latest project as an opportunity to express [his] gratitude through his honest interpretation of songs of praise, faith, and inspiration.”

Idol #2, Album #2, “I need an Angel”, from the Liner Notes:

“First, I would like to thank My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He is truly the reason I live and why I sing.”


Idol Runner-up from Season 2, Clay Aiken, Album #1, “Measure of a Man”, from the Liner Notes:

“Thank you God, the Alpha, for allowing me to get up every morning to experience a new day, and for filling each day with people and projects that I love so dearly.”

“And again, Jesus Christ, the Omega, for giving me gifts far beyond what I deserve, and allowing me to do what I truly enjoy doing. My life is in your hands.”

Album #2, “Merry Christmas With Love”, from the Liner Notes:

“Thank you to my Heavenly Father for providing me with opportunities and gifts far greater than I deserve.”

“And to Jesus Christ for Christmas and all that it means.”


Idol #3, Fantasia Barrino: I do not have her album yet (Why, oh WHY NOT?!?!) and therefore cannot see exactly what she put in print… However, she (like Ruben) has a strong Gospel background. If you saw the Christmas special that Kelly, Fantasia and Ruben did together on TV, it was some pretty down-and-dirty funky Gospel-from-the-heart praising goin’ on!

I just find it worthy of noting that all of the Idols, and indeed most (if not all) of the notable success stories from the show (Those that did not win the show, but have won popularity and success on their own merits) are Christians – and I mean born-again followers of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Draw your own conclusions.

Why, Hollywood, Why?

April 1, 2005

Why is it, Hollywood, that you insist that a movie must be laden with language or sex (or both) to sell?

Now, I’ll admit freely and unapologetically that I have high standards in terms of what content I’ll invite into my house and feed uncensored to my kids. That’s my job. And any parent who says otherwise needs to face reality: God has placed you (and me) as steward over your (and my) kids for a “season” (an unknown period of time)… He has given you a manual on what His expectations and standards are (The Bible); and He has informed you (and me) that one day we will stand before Him and give an account for all the decisions we make – why we did not uphold His standards, meet His expectations, etc… Why we were the kind of stewards we were. On that day, I know full well that I will have a LOT to be accountable for… The least I can do is try to best steward I can be.

All that having been said…

Explain to me why you have to take a movie like, for example, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon – which is perfectly family friendly otherwise, and insert a scene in the middle of it involving graphical and explicit rape. This scene is totally unnecessary – it does not add anything to the movie, does not further the plot, and does not help explain anything. It’s the epitome of gratuitous. And, rather than increasing sales, I would argue that it actually has the opposite effect, because it prevents people like me from buying a movie that I otherwise would like to, because I cannot share it with my kids.

What I allow is based on what the kids can handle, and what I believe is appropriate for them. Generally speaking, I don’t have too much of a problem with violence, within reason. I don’t go for the gruesome or gory stuff. But I believe all of my kids are reasonable, rational, intelligent human beings that have the ability to distinguish between fantasy and reality. They fully understand what goes into making movies and how hard they work to create “realism” in a totally safe environment using special effects, CG, etc.

I have always shuddered at those who are against certain types of music, or games, or movies, etc., on the premise that kids will hear them, play them, or see them, and go out and mimic them.

I do accept that there is a certain percentage of the population for which this is true. These people are mentally challenged. I seriously feel that someone who cannot separate fantasy and reality needs help. But that aside – that’s exactly the kind of thing I’m talking about with Parents being good Stewards. A parent should be able to soundly determine their child(ren)s ability to make that distinction and act accordingly – limit their exposure to dangerous fantasy if they might want to carry that fantasy into reality.

But I digress… My point is that I generally do not prohibit my kids from seeing a movie or playing a game based on violence.

Sex, sexuality, or even sensuality is at the other extreme. I prohibit all of my kids from seeing just about anything – movies, games, magazines, posters, etc., that are overtly sexual in nature. And for that matter, I try to prohibit myself in the same way.

And it’s not that I’m a prude, by any stretch of the imagination. It’s that I’m a fully self-aware male. I know how truly corrupt and depraved I (and all males) am (and are). I know how easy it is to arouse me sexually. And I know that Jesus has said that to even look on a woman with lust is to have committed adultery with her in my heart… This admittedly makes me one of the most adulterous people on the planet.

I believe that any man that chooses to be completely honest with himself would admit that it takes very little to cause him to be attracted to a woman, and then to seek to see more of her – or to imagine in his mind what it would be like to see more of her.

Yes, ladies, men are dogs. There’s no sense in trying to deny it. It’s true. I know – I have to live with that reality every day. So I try my best to limit my exposure to anything that will provoke that kind of response.

As such, I have come up with my own personal definition of pornography, as a yardstick to guide me in what to allow myself (or my kids) to be exposed to: “Anything which arouses me to lust.” That could be to the extreme of the generally accepted definition of pornography such as the Playboys and Penthouses of the world to the other extreme of a woman that chooses to dress in an immodest manner. I’ll maybe elaborate on women and their clothing choices in a future post, but for now, please just accept that to attract the kind of man you want to truly cleave to and become one flesh with, you do not need to show off anything that God has given you – because God has already programmed your chosen mate with a predisposed attraction to you. Just sit back and relax and wait for Gods timing.

Yikes, I digress again (staying on topic is very difficult for me).

Language falls somewhere in the middle. It’s pretty much strictly forbidden for Cory (7) and Matthew (10). There are minor exceptions, and I’m not too uptight about it. I accept that they will be exposed to it in the world, and I can’t control everything they see or hear – but I can restrict what I invite into my home. Brandon (13) is significantly less restricted, but only recently (as of his 13th birthday). I feel his maturity has demonstrated his ability to handle it, and not to incorporate it into his own vocabulary.

At the same time, I feel that exposure to any of these things (profanity, violence, sexuality), or indeed anything that God has said are not for His chosen people, does contribute to an overall desensitizing (or “hardening”) of our heart… So I wrestle with that.

Now to bring the point to closure:

Hollywood has seen, with The Passion of The Christ, that there is a huge audience that will accept and pay for a well made movie that does not contain sexuality, nudity, language, or gratuitous violence.

So learn the lesson, and take it to the bank: Make movies that are “family friendly”, and we will come out to see it. And buy it for our personal DVD collections. And recommend them to our friends. And buy them as gifts for other families, knowing that we won’t risk offending them or violating their own standards.

There are a huge number of movies that I remember very fondly from my own childhood, or younger adulthood. Speed, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, The Terminator, Die Hard, Lethal Weapon, Braveheart, Highlander, True Lies, City of Angels, and the list goes on. But with every one of these movies, though I would love to share the memories with my kids, there are aspects that prevent me from doing that.

And while I recognize that many of these movies are Rated R, and as such are not even intended for an audience as young as my kids, I think that’s beside the point. Even PG-13 and PG movies need to be reviewed objectively by the parent to determine if it’s appropriate for their kids. And yes, that is the responsible thing to do… But it seems that if I boiled my complaint down to the essence, it is two things:

1) Regardless of rating, Hollywood offers incredibly few really good, well made movies that are family friendly. It seems that they don’t believe that there’s an audience for a high-budget epic film that’s rated PG.
2) Our rating system needs to be completely revised to offer more detail and at-a-glance ability for parents to decide what’s appropriate for their kids without having to watch the movie first. For a sense of what this might look like, check out ScreenIt.

TiVo revolutionized my life

April 1, 2005

And I do not say that lightly. REVOLUTIONIZED!

Much has been said about TiVo, so I recognize that I am not alone in my love of TiVo. But I cannot sit idly by and not shout from the rooftops about this genius product.

First, in fairness I must admit that I am far too interested in TV in general. I waste a great deal of time watching TV that I could otherwise invest more wisely. However, I am not prepared to change that… So instead I must try to get control of this part of my life instead of allowing it to control me.

Enter TiVo.

TiVo allows me to watch what I want when I want it. No more having to rush to get home in time for The West Wing (Oh, I do love The West Wing, but that’s another post). No more crying (me or the kids) because I missed MythBusters. I tell TiVo the shows I like, and it makes sure I get them – whenever they’re on, whatever channel, etc. I couldn’t possibly remember all the times, channels, etc., for all the shows I like… But TiVo can, and does.

Also, one of the big points of argument between my wife and I, and more recently my kids and I is that of interrupting a show. I like to really focus on a show – I get into it, and I abhor distractions and interruptions. And my attitude is: Whatever you have to say can wait, but the show cannot. It will go on, whether I’m watching/listening or not – and I may miss some important material.

With TiVo, however, the show *WILL* wait. I can pause the show (even if it’s not one I’m recording), let the interruption happen, keep everyone happy, respect more appropriate priorities, and return to the show later.

And just so I don’t get too many comments from irate wives, let me state for the record that I agree that my wife and kids are a MUCH MUCH MUCH higher priority than TV is, no matter what’s on. But this is not a priority issue – it’s one of practicality. Yes, you (wife, kids, etc.) come first – but you are also capable of waiting, remembering, etc., whereas my stupid TV is not. So without TiVo, I don’t see a way around this that keeps everyone happy – there is no win-win. Either I win, and get to preserve the continuity of the program on TV, or the interruptor wins and they get they evidence that they are, in fact, higher priority.

With TiVo, however, it finally presents the opportunity for win-win. And that alone is worth the price of admission for me.

I love it, I recommend it, and I can’t imagine (and don’t ever want to try) having to live without it.